A Love Song
Food is Nutrition
Love is love.
Food is not love.
Food is nutrition.
In all the right places.
Don’t get too much
Don’t get too little
So you don’t confuse food
Fact is, we have a “relationship”
with food. Think about what makes it healthy
for you (and check out the similarities
to your relationships with people): anticipation
with a pleasurable, planful nature...
boundaries... other interests... balance...
full consciousness... never taking it
for granted (rather savoring it)... and
not “using” it... You should
be smacking your lips about now.
Learn Behavior Modification principles
for food (and of course they are the same
principles happily followed for emotions
- Monitoring or Mindfulness
knowing your patterns by creating a
diary; enjoying happily your portion
- Stimulus control
Program your stimulation and cues mindfully,
consciously with pleasant anticipation
(for example, leave exercise clothes
visible or in your car as a cue; respond
to food commercials on TV by dancing
rather than going to the refrigerator)
- Contingency management
Plan ahead to have non-food rewards
for changing behavior (for example,
the sensuous bath, permission to read
trash, idling lazily by the TV, requesting
a back rub... a little guilt, if you
must go negative but only a small amount
to prod you into new thinking and strategies.)
- Cognitive behavioral strategies
(learn to talk to yourself and think
differently- visualize yourself smiling
and sweating after exercise…and
with normal blood sugars… or talking
yourself into exercising for 15 minutes-rather
than not at all. Think about the pleasures
of a small amount of food: sweet pure
joy; no guilt; no raised blood sugar;
no broadened hips, just luscious pleasure).
- Stress management
SHI* happens. Know this and plan for
your healthy responses. Know that you
bring an apple with you for the ride
home after a long day. Have a salad
before going out to dinner so you are
not anxious or starving.
- Get support
Spend time talking to friends, family,
therapist so you can feel loved and
not use food as a substitute.
- BON APPETITE…FOR JUST ENOUGH
FOOD AND LOTS MORE LOVE AND HAPPINESS
- Getting more…of less.
Do girls really need the safety net
of control in thinking they are not
being rejected but mutually using? I
can’t help but think girl power,
saying no, might just give us more true
personal clout, and not make us subservient
to the masculine model.